Sexy And I Know It

Every time a gentleman calls me about getting a dudoir session, I get excited! I love it when guys are looking to use dudoir to help them regain self-confidence. Graeme, not his real name of course, had just gone through some really tough times, and wanted to do dudoir in part to help him feel sensual again for himself. I think it’s really brave for men to do something like that, to allow me to look into their world when they’re struggling with their self-concept and give them a piece of my mind – in a totally different way than you usually interact with a stranger.

My man Graeme chose our “Faceless Man” option, so unfortunately I can’t show you those sexy, daring eyes, or that full-out laughter, but he had a totally fantastic time at the session and the photos show that. It was a blast working with him. As you can see, Graeme’s body is not necessarily model material, but because that’s not what dudoir is about, it doesn’t matter. He’s exactly the kind of man I think can benefit most from a session like this.

Graeme may not have entered the session feeling all that great about himself, but once the photos came back he was thrilled. He’s sexy, and now he knows it.


Definition: The Definition

Have you ever looked up the dictionary definition of the word definition? I have, because I’m a nerd. The tertiary (third-ranked) definition of definition is “the accuracy of a picture reproduction” – which you might be familiar with if you’ve bought or considered buying a new TV lately – “high definition” just means a better picture. As a photographer, I am greatly concerned with creating excellent pictures, and as a person who loves words and finds meaning in many things, I am concerned with defining myself. For me, this makes definition the chief part of what I do on a day to day basis.

Not only that, but it’s fundamentally concerned with boudoir photography, and why I want to photograph women “as is.”

Here’s the problem – photography is getting a pretty bad rap these days for fixing people, creating an image that conforms to an impossible standard. As a person who has always held myself to an impossible standard to negative results, I can identify some of my issues in this same light. Society is a pressure cooker – and we individuals as a part of it contribute – to force an ideal. This is by no means a new thing. History is full of examples of conformist, impossible personal improvement, particularly for women. From footbinding and corsets to Weight Watchers and Photoshopping, extremist idealism has been a part of beauty culture for as long as the human race has been human.

I’m going on a journey to redefine myself in real ways, and I’d like to invite you to come with me. Please follow the blog feed, comment with your thoughts, and join me in discussing fashion, body image, and above all, the search to make clear the definition of how we see ourselves.

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